What I Learned From My Inner Child.


Love your neighbor as yourself.  A very familiar command. It’s obvious that so many people get discouraged and frustrated learning to love friends and family let alone trying to love themselves. My belief is that you must first love your self unconditionally before you can truly love someone else.  A huge life epiphany was when I discovered that to find my own true happiness,  I needed to find my way back to loving myself first. I am my humble priority. When I am in love with myself, my world is at peace.

With this discovery, I found that I had to look deeper inside. What I saw was that my inner world had separated from its core self.  My inner child no longer connected with my middle and adult self. And with the separation along came all the negativity, lack of confidence, lack of self-worth, and loss of hope. It started at the disconnect. re: Joseph Campbell and The Heroes Journey (separation, initiation, return)

The flood of advice we get about love includes my favorite…embrace and love your inner child. Great advice. However, what if there was much more to it than that? What if your inner child is the eternally wise all-knowing one within and not the smart adult self that you think you are? What if your inner child is the ‘perfect you’ before life began to happen? What if your inner child is the one who knows that there are no boundaries and every dream is possible beyond the wildest imagination? What if that little person inside remembers everything you are here for?  What if your inner child is waiting for your return? Be still and listen. What if that child is standing in the fountain of true wisdom?  What if your child holds the KEY to unconditional love and everything you need to know?

This is a new way to look at embracing your inner child. Think about it this way.  A long time ago, in another dimension known as childhood, is a place where our child is keenly aware of who we are and why we are here. However,  with the first ‘NO’ we hear, the first slap on the hand we feel, the first time we come face to face with a bully, and with the first teardrop of anger and disappointment, we began to forget everything we knew.

And on it goes. The older we grow, the more life’s dirty laundry continues to bury us. It gets harder and harder to remember who we are and what we came here to do.  Our parents, our playmates, the television, magazines, and pop culture begin to weave a story that’s not our own. We are bombarded with the proselytizing mainstream narrative about what we should think and who we should be.  Before we know it we are blind to our purpose and birthright. And then one frustrating day we wake up, look in the mirror and we no longer know who we are anymore. We barely recognize ourselves.

Then in our quest for self-discovery, we find ourselves knee-deep in self-help, drugs, medication, illnesses, depression, mental illnesses, apathy, going along with the crowd,  all the ‘isms’.  We aren’t even aware that we’re thinking someone else’s thoughts.  Original thoughts are rare.  ‘Who am I’ is the eternally unanswered question.

However, there is hope. Know this. Your inner child is waiting to be rediscovered by the adult you.  Not in the way we’ve  been taught to think and not as the adult speaking to the child. But as the child speaking to the adult.

After years of disconnect,  we’ve been separated into three parts.  These three parts of you must come back together as one. The three parts of you are this…

  1. Your ‘young‘ inner child, the one before the ‘knowing that you didn’t know’ began. The innocent you
  2. The ‘middle‘ inner child, the one that experienced all of the things that caused the separation from yourself. Trauma/Drama
  3. The now ‘adult‘ you that is trying to figure it all out.

This is the Trinity of you. These three parts must become whole and connected again. You must become ONE with yourself in order for you to find your way back to the Garden of Self.

7 Things You Need to Know to Get Started:

  1. Sit quietly in meditation and prayer and listen to what your inner child has to say to the present you
  2. See your present self from the inner child’s perspective (inside out or from the past forward) to the present you
  3.  Listen to what your child has to share with you
  4. Know that your inner child loves you unconditionally and let your child tell you what you need to know about your journey
  5. Your inner child knows exactly what you had to go through to get you to where you are today.
  6. Your inner child has all of the answers
  7. Listen closely to hear your inner child tell you how proud they are of you

Again, be still, listen for your child’s voice, make friends again, and trust the journey back. What did you dream about as a child? What did you love to do? What were your favorite stories? Let your child remind you 🙂 that real truth and ageless wisdom are found in this paradox.

This Trinity or tri-reality is as real and alive as your breath and they all exist together in parallel dimensions. The beginning, the middle and the present.

This is the primordial secret to raising ourselves the right way. As long as we plug back into our real self, everything will become more clear. What we want is what we were born for. When we master that which is within, we can then master that which is without. As above, so below. As within, so without.

And so the journey goes…love your self unconditionally. This is where the wellspring of all love lives. It begins with you.  This is the way back way back to an unconditional love of self!! Our mission is to return to our inner child where love and light, innocence and unconditional love live. Heaven on earth, eternal truth, wisdom, confidence, and unconditional love are found right here!

You truly had the power all along!  Let the healing begin!

Standing At The Edge of The Cliff

This morning I stood by the edge of a cliff.  Afraid to take that next step over the edge into the unknown. I closed my eyes. I took a big breath and then I took another breath and then another.  I could feel the hesitation and the uneasiness creeping through my veins like a storm without rain.

My guide stepped closer and whispered into my ear… “go ahead, make the jump”.  I trembled deep inside my core even though I knew that it was something I had to do.  I couldn’t turn back now. The opportunity was right in front of me. But that step from terra firma to over the edge of the cliff tugged at my ‘what if’.

I could feel my trusted guide standing there not saying a word as I took what seemed like forever.  As he waited his presence surrounded me with warm acceptance and kind benevolence for this life altering moment in my life.

I took a deep breath, closed my eyes,  and pointed my toe to step over the edge, and then as if nudging me forward, I felt the wind gently push me and then I began to fall. This was it, I thought to myself as my body hurled itself to somewhere.  I couldn’t open my eyes as I felt the wind rushing past me. My heart was beating so fast I thought it would burst. It felt like I was plummeting into oblivion.  And then I opened my eyes.

What I saw ignited my heart in amazing knowingness.  It wasn’t a free-fall after all.  I found myself riding atop a magnificent eagle! I was one with the pulsating flow of the monstrous wings gliding softly through the clouds. This historical moment was a reunion with all of the wisdom that had been hiding inside of me.  A homecoming to the story that had been written for me at the beginning of time. My story.  My truth. And I now knew. I knew that all along I was always perfectly protected.  As we soared together through the gentle skies I could see majestic mountains and vast green valleys below. Crystal clear lakes and rivers and streams. Orchards and gardens teeming with vegetables, fruits, and flowers. And waterfalls and pools of glistening clear water.


On eagles wings. Our perception of what we fear is only that, an impression of what we’ve been conditioned to think. It is a story marred and stained with a life that we may not have made friends with, however, it was a story written specifically for us and for the things we need to learn. As life got thrown at us we forgot what we came here to find. That is our journey…to find our way back to our heart.

My guide, the one who has been with me since the beginning of time, knew.  Knew that all that happened was to get me to here, to right now.  All is well. Everything really is ok. It is good to trust in a higher power. My life is designed to fulfill my destiny of learning how to trust and love myself once again. Back to the Garden to fly with the eagles and the angels to wherever I want to go.

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Through The Eyes of Your Heart…

As a seed exposes it’s soul to the womb of the wet dark earth before it sprouts toward it’s journey of discovery to the light, so too, are we to honor the journey of where we started, where we’ve been, where we are, and where we’re going.  And like that seed, our heart also knows the way home.  Joseph Campbell describes it so well in The Hero’s Journey–separation, initiation, return.  Finding out who we are along the way…is the journey to self-discovery.
When the heart  begins to spring forth like a lotus and opens itself to all of the journey and the whole process it’s been through (dirt, darkness, wind, rain, floods, hail) and uncovers a true unconditional LOVE of self, the eyes of our heart will finally be opened to an abundance and beauty that have always been there…right in front of us…the whole time.
In the physical world, as we know it, we live in a dimension of lack (or growth) when in reality, at our fingertips, found only within our heart of hearts, is a world of an intimate love of self. This is the treasure. This is abundance and true beauty like nothing else we’ve ever known. This is the Holy Grail.  This is what we find when we make our way back home to the Garden. This is where we find that there is always and always has been more than enough.
Through the eyes of our heart, we will see the Truth!
🙂 Debi
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Awakening to Your Higher Self

If you’re going through something and life just isn’t making any sense…think about this paradox…a shadow does not exist without light and from the darkness, we can create a new reality going forward. Your focus is everything…a potential for a deeper awakening.


Negative People, Events and Circumstances ARE Our Best Assets…

With the best of intentions, we often fight against the flow when negative people and uncomfortable situations cross our path. The truth is, however,  that those people and circumstances are our biggest assets.

Think about it…it’s the negative stuff that, if we allow it, pushes us into a different direction and on to another course that is perhaps more prosperous and more abundant for us in the long run. If your life didn’t have any challenges, you wouldn’t have any reason to reflect and rediscover who you are truly meant to be!

Always remember, these kinds of assets are our personal change-agents!

So the next time life throws a bully at you, stop and take a moment to reflect on what the Universe is really trying to tell you!

To a more delightful you!


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Happy First Day of Spring!

My most favorite time of the year… because the days are getting longer 🙂 <3 <3

What are you doing to clean and air out the dusty corners of your body, your mind, and your soul? Here are a few of my favorite ideas:

  1. Meditation
  2. Walk in nature
  3. Open the doors and windows
  4. Buy fresh flowers
  5. Plant a garden

Whatever you do, hibernation time is over and it’s time to celebrate the light!

Be enlightened!

Happy Spring,